Living for the Revel (catvalente) wrote,
Living for the Revel

This Blog Is Now Moderated By The Iron Fist of Elizabeth Bennet


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I'm so sorry about all this. I just went friends only in like 2005 ... too many mics, not enough MCs, I guess. So that was the easy way for me, but I had no professional need to blog or put my real name up in here. I wish you the very best of luck mitigating this shit.

What happened to you is the stuff I have nightmares about; I'm sorry you had to live it, and I'm glad you are moving to protect yourself.I have always like that you, well, emotionally engage with a lot of people on the internet, and I hope these rules let you still do that.
I haven't been reading lj for months (possibly years), so I've missed a great deal. I wanted to say that I admire your spirit, your heart, and your writing, Cat. Not to mention, your ability to draw people together into community. I'm sorry some people refuse to be civil.
This all sounds eminently reasonable, and a good solution to some of the nonsense you've had to deal with lately. And bonus points for doing it with style.
I am very sorry to read that things have gotten so horrible. I don't even know what to say about the threats of rape--that is so far off the deep end.

Putting those aside and just considering any nasty arguments or trolling, I certainly agree that you should not have to feel anxious whenever see someone's name posting, and even more so when it is in your own space.

I am afraid I do not follow controversy that much, so I am not aware of the issues, and I have only started reading your journal this past year or so, but I love your long and thoughtful posts and am glad you are going to keep posting.
Try not to be horrible, wonderful advice. It's up there with Bill and Ted's be excellent to each other and Elwood P. Dowd's comment that his mother had told him to get on in this life one had to be awfully clever or awfully pleasant, he tried being clever for a long time, but he preferred pleasant. Sad that you had to do this, Cat.
Just wanna say, now having caught up (I think) with what is the recent drama, that I'm really sorry you had to go through all of this. And that you are rad and your writing is rad.

Back in the wilder days of LJ, this was one of my modly banhammer icons. I find fewer reasons to use it now, but I am still nostalgic for those years of moderating with an iron fist.
Very nice writeup. Good luck with it. (not distrusting you, but distrusting of the population at large) You are brave and I wish you the best with it.
I rarely break out of lurk mode online, although I have been reading for years, so it feels a bit weird to comment as if I were a regular part of your blog/livejournal community. Nonetheless, I want to add a supporting voice. I haven't bought any of your books yet (too much work reading, although it is for a classics degree, which you might appreciate), but have read the stuff you've linked to online and your voice and style and story speak to me on so many levels. And I do have at least a couple of your books in my 'buy later' amazon cart, which serves as a 'do be read' list. I don't know the players involved in this most recent mess, but wanted to say that you continually impress with your well-reasoned and kick ass responses, and, for me, even more with you willingness to show how it hurts. I'm absolutely not suggesting that you should do that, but your bravery in showing vulnerability is fucking impressive. Anyway, just a roundabout huzzah! and thanks for writing. Your stories speak to me, but so does your writing about 'just' living, with depression, and writing, and housekeeping, and, and, ... so thank you. You've helped me through some dark times.

And your mod policy is wonderfully witty and hard ass and reasonable.
This was amazing. I laughed, I cried, it became a part of me.

I've never thought of strict moderation policies as something to apologize for. It's sad that the sheer ubiquity of frothing, spluttering BUT BUT BUT FREE SPEECH THOUGH!!1!! ignoramuses on the Internet has made reasonable people feel sheepish about putting a sign up. What is even up with that? IMO there is absolutely no reason to worry about not being somehow "open enough" to all comers. Fuck that. Hanging out in someone's commentspace is a privilege; a commentspace as awesome as yours, doubly so. You have every single right in the entire goddamn world to make them fucking earn it. It's like a relationship, yeah? If you're not feeling it you're not feeling it, and you don't have to come up with Appropriate Reasons to break up; anyone who demands them has already proven they're not relationship material. Similarly with the commenter who does the equivalent of chasing you out of the coffee shop saying BUT TELL ME WHY TELL ME WHY I DESERVE THAT MUCH I JUST WANT TO TALK etc. etc. etfuckingc. Would that those douches were so easy to ban IRL.

Anyway, I don't know what brought this on but I'm sorry that you're hurting. Good on you for being so meticulously fair and managing to be hilarious while doing so. Long may your moderation prosper!

I'm glad that you put together a moderation policy that works for you. Comment conversations are great and all, but you shouldn't have to dread your own comments section.

(Besides which, any conversation worth having should be able to easily steer around the banhammer of doom.)
I'm sorry it has come to this.

I totally and completely understand you, but I can no longer come here and read your blog. I don't stand for moderation loudly calling for a banhammer. There's something significantly wrong with this.

However, you need peace and if this helps you to feel better w/o medication and you really feel this is what you want - hopefully it helps.

Good luck!


August 6 2012, 12:15:23 UTC 9 years ago Edited:  August 6 2012, 12:16:45 UTC

There is something wrong with "loudly calling for a banhammer," but not with someone threatening rape? Not with people intentionally trolling for the purpose of causing emotional distress?

Certainly there is no need for you to read a blog if you do not wish to, but I would argue that the "something significantly wrongwith this" to which you should be referring are the posts and attitudes which made catvalente feel that -some- moderation was necessary.

[edited to remove a redundant "for the purpose"]


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I've had a lot of fun reading your blog over the past couple years. I'm sorry that there have been enough assholes that you had to put moderation rules in place but I really like your detailed list of everything.

I also adore your subject line.
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