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I can't even articulate how strongly I agree with pretty much everything you've said here. So I'll just send you hugs from Australia instead.

*hug*

Oh, Cat. I am so fucking sorry.

You don't have to walk in lock step with anyone. People need to grow the fuck up and get lives. I don't always agree with you all the damn time, but I love your voice, I love how you think, and you make *me* think. For fuck's sake, if we all thought and talked the same, what a fucking boring world it would be.

Too many people are addicted to righteous indignation and rage. We don't need to be them.

Please take care of yourself.

And again (again again again), Palimpsest is one of my all time favorite novels and made me weep over the sheer beauty of the prose. It is a sorrow to me that people shredded it. To me, it says more about their own insecurities and the smallness of their souls than anything about you.

And finally, you will always be Lady Snow for me. No one can own an idea. No one. We can only share them. They are viruses like that. And saying that you can't take in some part of what being in Japan was for you, because you're not Japanese?

I call bullshit.

Hang in there. Please. And above all, do not let this silence you.

*holds you in the light*

I am sorry that you felt like you had to change your name and that you are being stressed out.

That said, I agree with everything else you said.

We're only responsible for our own words and deeds and are not required to be the internet's social police.

Write and share what you will and nothing else.

I have Thoughts about this, but I don't have the spoons to sort through them all right now. I read some of that "conversation" and fled because I just wasn't up to it.

But I will say that none of this feels to me like anything you should have to defend or justify, and I'm sad and protective of you as my friend that you feel pushed into this position. Sending hugs and support and random kittens your way.

And please remember to take care of yourself, okay?

How did you get dragged into this mutually assured destruction? I read the original post, argued with the most egregious comments and left it at that to write my own post where I just said that I liked some of the reviews that she wrote but increasingly she'd pull out the "I want to kick this writer in the head with steel toed boots" shtick and it did get rather boring. The Twitter feed in which she sent her followers to blogs was the tipping point for me.

Kind of too bad. She did have a lot of great things to say about literature and even cultural appropriation (even if she was way too fascist in this regard).

But I'm sorry to hear that you got appointed the Kindergarten teacher for a bunch of squalling brats by the default of your refusal to get involved in most of these fights. Really sucks.

I also agree completely with this post. And I am saddened by some folks' rhetoric on the internet and the bullying that they inflict on people with what seems to be their own bullshit.

Ironically enough I was just defending Nick Pacione and not just because getting called out by that crazy bastard is an amazing networking opportunity but also because no one cares what he says so engineering these mass attacks to complain about something he said on his blog in order to shut it down is just fucking pathetic.

Also his grandmother just died and as far as I can tell from reading his blogs, she was the only person that ever cared about him or put up with his messhguggas. I know he hates my guts and has leveled all the accusations against me (gay plagiarist who is out to ruin his career and sometimes he gets into the Jew thing but he usually pulls back for fear of seeming anti-semitic) but he is his own worst enemy. THere's nothing anyone can do to him that he hasn't done to himself.

Your decision to change your name, I can understand. It's shitty that someone else took you to task over it, when it's none of their damned business how you present anywhere, but I can see that, in fact, you are a different person and perhaps the name no longer fits as well as it did.

The other thing -- the idea that you have to somehow apologize for anything written by another human being so wholly unconnected to you -- is insane. Just outright insane.

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Edited at 2012-08-02 10:41 pm (UTC)

Agreed. Insane.
Especially when I won't even apologize for what I write.

No words for you -- none seem appropriate. I don't know anything about RH. The suggestion that you are to apologize for someone else's words is just plain bullying.

Thought maybe this would make you feel better, because that's what I wish for you.

http://youtu.be/4kJPOXfnp1E

Edited at 2012-08-02 10:44 pm (UTC)

I agree with all of this post.

One of the things I best love about your writing is the way you open yourself up: there's honesty at the heart of all of your words.

I don't agree with every word you write; I don't agree with every word anyone writes. But even when I don't agree, I'm struck - again and again - by the you in those words. There is a beauty in being open. In exposing both pride and warts. You do that, always. In snippets of description. In rants. In celebrations.

I'm inordinately selfish as a reader, and I don't want to lose that.

People praise her all over the place and don't get appointed her White Guardian.


Aaaaaw yeeeah!


Me and RH, sittin' in a tree.

Is RH poly? We can share. I hear she likes girls.

Wow. I missed a lot, didn't I?

Just letting you know that I love you, you are a dear & marvelous human & friend.

Also, I fucking loved Palimpsest.

nex0s (mobile posting sucks monkey balls)

I know, right? What the hell is wrong with LJ? Welcome to 2012, jerks.

I believe that people should be able to voice their opinions, even if I disagree with them. Even if I agree sometimes and other times think that in a quest to answer injustice and be heard, they step over the line into cruelty. I am a complex person. I can believe at the same time that these injustices are real, and the inability to be heard is a genuine concern, and also not side with a critic on every issue. (Jesus, it's called reading.)

Thank you. This.

Also, I'm sorry about how you've been dragged through this whole situation.

Wow. That is crappy that people are doing that.

I think you're amazing.

Also, days when meds run out suck. A lot. I hear you.

And this, dear Lady, is why I continue to curl up in the corner, here in your place.

Life is too short, and generally we all have better things to do.

Love

I might feel bad about your "I require meds toooo" sympathy ploy (newsflash: that is not what "ironic" means) but since you were just absolute shit to someone who told you she had tried to attempt suicide, any sympathy I might have for you is gone forever. That was horrific. You should apologize, immediately.
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It's not a ploy--what kind of person assumes that?

And she and I spoke on the phone. I was not horrific to her. I pointed out that her words also had effects. That she caused me deep pain as well. If she did not find it so horrific that she couldn't call me and discuss it, with us both apologizing to the other and becoming at least nominally friendly, I'm not sure where you get off telling me that my mental issues are fake. Calling people liars when it comes to their health is pretty horrific.

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Thank you very much for this post. I said it before and I am saying it again - I am beyond appalled that some people seem to think you are responsible for RH. Authors are not responsible for their fans' speech or their fans' actions. There was no connection between your original post on harassment and the strange, misguided comment that implied that you cannot talk about harassment without first denouncing RH.

FWIW, I loved Palimpsest.

All I can say is I'm so sorry this is happening. No one needs this sort of thing in their lives.

Oh, fucksticks. I don't like RH- she skirts a bit to close to, "EVERYONE WHO ARGUES WITH ME EVER IS NOT ONLY WRONG, BUT HATES EVERYTHING I AM!" for my taste- but ultimatums are ultra bullshit, and there's got to be a line of reasonable discourse drawn somewhere, over which people can retreat and go, "guys, this bullshit... not my problem anymore. I am off the vitriol train."

Cripes, what the fuck is up with the need to filter folks into specific camps, and One Side never touches the Other Side? I GRR! For you I GRR Mightily!

(Though I am glad you are not the stuck-in-Japan, mid 2000's you no more. You might still be a broken you, but I can tell you that you are not _that_ level of broken, even from this distance.)

Eh. You're Win. I love, inarticulately.

I haven't heard of this person or this issue before your post, but your response seems reasonable to me except I really don't see the need to change your name, but that of course is your decision.

I have problems with the issue of cultural appropriation since it seems to me much good can come of combining different cultural ideas into something new, and to say that someone can only use those ideas/words that are part of their own culture would seem to me to make for a very boring world.

Were you too busy paying attention to the ReaderCon controversy or did you have a life?

Quite a wise post, and sorry to hear of the distress. Increasingly I see reviewers gone after, and I don't get it, even when it seems they've gone over the line. No good comes from responding--much of the time it just makes you seem unprofessional. And they are simply opinions, after all. With so many ridiculous statements out there to argue with it seems such a waste of creative energy better spent writing fiction.

Cultural appropriation is complicated. It's certainly true some writers have been insensitive and greedy in this regard, and I believe writers should care about the cultural ownership concerns raised by indigenous peoples. On the other hand I think some of the most powerful fiction takes place at that point where our imaginations meet others we can't possibly understand, and yet our creative empathy says we must. I would hate to see writers shy away from those moments because of fears of cultural appropriation.

Indeed.

It fucking sucks that this has taken up all my writing energy for the day.

First, hugs.

Second, I think you are a brilliant writer; everything I have read of yours has been amazing.

Third, changing your user name because you feel "it's time" makes perfect sense. It's sounds like perhaps you are no longer that person. But HAVING to because of pressure from others SUCKS.

Edited at 2012-08-02 11:14 pm (UTC)

This is a beautiful, heartfelt post, and I completely agree with you. Blame, intimidation, bullying, denouncing—it's all bullshit.

Perhaps I'll stick to writing Mil Historical. The SF&F community is looking unnatractive right now.

Oh, well, suppose I'd better change my username as well. Yes, I appropriated it. I did it in homage to one of the greatest writers on the planet, who wrote a novel over a thousand years ago. I don't think anyone is insulted. Certainly noone has mentioned it. Then again, I am not a famous writer, which somehow (in what world is theis right?) who becomes a target for the pettyminded and small hearted.

My advice: walk away from the Web for awhile. Find peace in oher things. Write, sing, love, pat the dogs, make preserves, do things that recharge your spirit. Engaging with these people is like pumping oxygen into a fire: not a good idea. It truly saddens me that the Web/Internet, which is a great source of enlightenment, connection, and wisdom, has its dark side. Haven't people got anything better to do than spread hate? Mine you, if we were all in a medieval city, they would be the neighbourhood busybody spreading gossip and lies.

Best wishes from Australia

Edited at 2012-08-02 11:27 pm (UTC)

I just wanted to say: I loved Palimpsest.

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