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Rules for Anchorites

Letters from Proxima Thule


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I realize this isn't what you meant.

I need every person to forgive themselves for one thing they're berating themselves for. Today. Just one. If you can only manage five minutes of forgive, that's plenty.

This will result in an overall lightening of the planetary atmosphere. And, baby, I NEED that.

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It is ok that I am not the best, not world-class, not high-powered, not high-earning, not ambitious, not recognized, not superlative anything. I am a useful person and a force for good the way I am.

I will keep reminding myself of this.

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This is totally within the bounds of what I meant.

I forgive myself for not having lost the weight yet, for not working when I'm supposed to be recuperating--that seems silly, but I feel a lot of guilt over it. I can manage that for five minutes.

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I forgive myself that I wasn't a published author at seventeen. All my life I've held myself to ridiculous expectations I wouldn't wish on a world ruler. I'm so compassionate to other people, and I can't spare a drop for myself? I'm learning and trying, a little more everyday, to show myself kindness.

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I forgive myself for the things I'm just not able to handle. It's okay if I'm not better than that right now. I don't have to have the answer all the time.

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This is refreshing though truly, just the other day I had been
worried that I had done something horrible awful and goin' through
all the bad things my mind could conjure. Begging for forgiveness for
certain things I thought might have been bad enough to have breached some
boundary to make karma come back at me and my sons like this. So I have done as you asked let us see what happens. Peace and love to all- Alice

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I can forgive myself for having so many fears I find it difficult to breathe or move sometimes. So many other people believe in me; I can believe in myself a little more. I am more than the sum of my fears and my fears do not own me.

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You ask a lot. :)

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I love this. Thank you for the reminder.

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I'm not sure I can forgive myself for not being the person my dog thinks I am.

I can, however, offer you a virtual cup of something warm and the hope that you are able to grant yourself what you are asking others to grant themselves.

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(Anonymous)
I forgive myself for being brought low by circumstance when there was nothing I could do.
I forgive myself for the fear that holds me still when I should be running full speed ahead
and I forgive myself for that extra scoop of cookie dough ice cream with caramel sauce.

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I forgive myself for taking so long to get the review I just sent in finished.

*breathes*

Ooh, I can feel that lightening already. Thank you!

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what a beautiful, compassionate thought. Thank you.

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I forgive myself for being ill and having to spend 2 years focusing on that. I forgive myself for having to leave work because it was making me sick.
I forgive myself for wanting everything to be perfect so I don't tend to do things. I forgive myself for feeling like a failure in art, writing and work.

I forgive myself for feeling down.

Lastly I forgive myself that I still haven't quite past scarves and one hat in my knitting explorations. The day will come.

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Okay, well, you are awesome for posting this, first of all. Today...basically, today I am going to forgive myself for not being good enough. I forgive myself for the fact that I'm 23, I will be going on my first date ever on Thursday, and I'm completely terrified. I forgive myself for this mess (the parts of it that are my fault, anyway), and for not being a very good grad student and not living up to a lot of people's expectations...because y'know, I may not manage the basic minimum of staying on top of stuff that my fellow grad students do, but...I have a degree, I'm working on my master's, and I have some kind of plan for my future. I mean, if I can manage that.

...look at me go back into blaming myself for stuff. NO. STOP. FORGIVE FOR FIVE MINUTES.

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I forgive myself for not having written a cover letter for my novel yet. I forgive myself for procrastination and for stress-induced self-sabotage. It makes me anxious, but I am young and I have time.

Thank you.

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I forgive myself for sometimes becoming so mired in depression that I cannot accomplish anything.

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I will allow myself to not only need, but even ask for help.

I just wrote that sentence in block letters on a big sheet of paper. I promise to work on it.

Thank you for the opportunity!

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i forgive myself for the mistakes i've made in the past ten years in my working life, love/relationship situations and other personal decisions. i am working to allow myself to understand that life is a journey with many hills and valleys - not a race to see who finishes 'first'.

speaking of which i guess i should get off this thing and continue reading the Riverworld series. thanks.

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Partnerships are about supporting each other. I support cflute sometimes when she needs it; I can and have done things ranging from offering emotional comfort and cuddles when she's sad to help surviving in the water when our kayak overturned. I therefore will stop yelling at myself for having had to ask her to skip her class this evening and handle the kids even though it was supposed to be my turn, because I'm hurting so much I can barely breathe. She isn't mad at me; she just takes it as one of those unfortunate things the universe deals out sometimes. I'll stop being mad at me, too.

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You're fantastic. I will work on that. It'll take some doing, but well worth the effort.

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I forgive myself for the weight I still haven't lost, the mess in the kitchen, the red flowering currant that's dying no matter what I do.

And I forgive myself for being terrified of the two things I most desperately want to do with my life - for at least the next five minutes. (thank you)

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This thread is superbly awesome.

I forgive myself for being so wrapped up in practicality that I forgot to have adventures. And I will try to remember how to have them again. Maybe if I put them on the calendar...

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I can manage at least five minutes of self-forgiveness for my decade+ neglect of my teeth.

...heck, I put on my big girl panties and have four appointments over the next two months in place to fix everything, and I have the savings to pay for it.

Maybe I'll just forgive myself entirely.

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I forgive myself for telling my ex-partner that I wasn't coming to visit his state on a pre-planned visit, the day we broke up. Even if telling him I didn't want to see him is what sent him looking for comfort elsewhere. Even if without it we would have gotten back together and be living happily ever after. I forgive myself. I was hurt and upset and that I managed to make my anger take such small paths is a miracle in itself.

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